I just need some help navigating my thoughts in this situation. Sorry for the long post
First we have Paul. We have met at a few parties. He's fun and cute, and i can't really stop myself flirtig with him. We made out once after a party, but i then told him i didn't want anything else to happen between us. I really wasn't in the right headspace at the time for dating or sleeping around, but also he wasn't a good kisser.
Now we've met up a couple of times outside of parties. We've mainly been hanging out as friends, but i can tell he wants more. I was thinking that i'd just continue getting to know him and see where things go from there. We have never slept together and aren't officialy dating or anything, and haven't had any conversation about it.
Then over to the second guy, Adam.
We've been friends for well over 10 years and know each other very well. We became fwb while we both where single before, then back to friends without any issue.
He just broke up with his girlfriend and he came over to talk about it. He then brought up how we used to hook up and made it clear he wanted to open that door again.
While i did really enjoy the times we had, i'm afraid i might want more than just be fwb in the long run. I know that's not what he wants right now at least. Also, last time we kept it a secret from everyone, because of his friendship with my ex. It kinda made it more exciting, but also prevented us from staying the night and stuff. I don't want to sneak around again, but also don't feel like dealing with the mess that is my ex if we're open about it. At the same time, it would be nice to have a fwb close by again.
I was thinking of first having a talk with Adam about what exacly he wants, so I have all the facts straight there.
Then have a chat with Paul to better understand what he wants/expects from me.
I will not continue with both at the same time, that doesn't feel right. I have friends in comon with both of them, so both will continue be part of my life more or less.
I'm ovulating, so I struggle thinking with my brain at the moment 🤣
What am I missing? What else should i consider?
